“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.
Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death.
Living never wore one out so much as the effort not to live. Life is truly known only to those who suffer, lose, endure adversity and stumble from defeat to defeat.
Perfection is static, and I am in full progress. Abnormal pleasures kill the taste for normal ones. ~ Anais Nin
I read this quote today and it hit me like a ton of bricks. I knew after reading it several times that I have been giving in to the voice of fear within me. I have been worried about what people would think if I continued to write my truth on this blog. I have been concerned that people would think it’s “too much”.
I have also felt lately that some of my posts weren’t what I wanted them to be because I was trying to come up with something that would be more universally interesting. Even yesterday, I added to the French Girl Style post because it felt as if I didn’t do my best. The truth is, I haven’t been writing about what I wanted to write about and I’ll go even further, I think that my fear of offending or of being “too much” has blocked my brain from inspiration. So…I’ve made a decision…
As I’ve said before, I do love fashion, food and all things that go into living a great life, but I really want to inspire you all to live your best life and find your way to true happiness. There will be some who don’t want to read my posts and that’s ok. I’m sure, if I’m completely honest and write from my heart that I will find my tribe…those people who truly want to be here! Some days, my heart may lead me to share fashion or a great recipe, but I won’t hold back if I feel that I have something to say that may help someone to push past their fear, take a risk and live a better life.
I think society encourages us to stuff our curiosity and stick with what’s safe. But I will tell you that anything you put your heart into and do with love will be more successful than something you do because you’re “supposed to”, or because it’s the practical, safe thing to do. Worrying about what others will think will lead to a very boring, predictable life!
In my life, I’ve been in situations where I was backed into a corner and forced to change because there was no other choice. Where I really had nothing to lose if I didn’t change. I don’t want to ever be at that point again. I also don’t want to feel bored and uninspired because I’m ignoring what my inner voice is telling me to do. Pain is not inspiration, but it can be bad enough that it causes us to take a chance on living in a different way, which can lead to inspiration if we’re open to it. I believe that when we’re cracked open, our light can shine through the cracks if we let it.
Tapping into our creativity is exciting and bold. It feels good! Everyone has the potential to live an inspired life, but our society doesn’t encourage that. It may seem easier to just fit in than to explore other options that may feel better to us.
The truth is that our world wouldn’t be where it is today if people didn’t take risks and go against the status quo. Think about the great people who have had a profound effect on how we live today. What if we didn’t have cars or the ability to fly all over the world. Those are big examples, but what I know is that inspiration is contagious! And…I’ll say it again…if I only inspire one person to step out of their box and live differently, that’s enough because they may also inspire one person. Just think of how different the world would be if we all followed our built in guidance system and did what our hearts are called us to do. I’m quite sure that one person that inspires another person will potentially indirectly inspire millions. Inspiration is best when it’s shared! Don’t ever think that you don’t have anything to offer.
‘Bravery isn’t about being fearless. It’s about loyalty. If we are loyal to our heart, we will find our courage. And while we may still be petrified, as long as we have a little more courage than we have fear, we can take action.” ~ Light Watkins
To that end, you can expect more posts like this! I’m on a mission to speak my truth. I don’t want to feel uninspired and bored. I want to look forward every morning to sitting down at my computer to share whatever is sparking my curiosity that day.
I’ve tried, at times in my life, to be “perfect”, but no one is perfect because we’re all human. We learn from our mistakes and if we’re not willing to step out and take a chance, we never learn. Perfection is only a fear of not being enough and we are all enough.
For years, my tag line has been “A Daily Indulgence” and I truly want you to feel like you’re getting a daily indulgence when you stop here at Crazy Blonde Life!
Just lost my husband to ALS. He lived 11 months after diagnosis. I am processing through grief and trying to stay connected to life at the same time. I enjoy all your posts and love that you are including this kind as well. You encourage reaching out for your best self and not giving up or giving in to anything or anyone not supporting that outcome. Thank you, Susanne, for being open and vulnerable.❤️
Hi Deborah
I am so very sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine the grief you must be feeling and how difficult it must be to try to stay connected right now. Thank you for reading Crazy Blonde Life and I sincerely hope that my posts help you through this time. I will keep you in my prayers.
I love this! It’s difficult to be honest, bare and raw at times! I love being loyal to your heart! I’m so proud of all that you have accomplished and that you are continuing to grow and speak your truth! You are an inspiration !
Hi Britt
You have been with me through it all and I love you for that! You always encourage me to keep going and support whatever I’m doing! Thank you so much! I’m blessed to have you as a friend!
This post resonates with me deeply and I am sure it does with so many others. You write beautifully and truthfully. Thank you for taking the time to share!
Nelly
Hi Nelly
I never had written anything before I started Crazy Blonde Life and had no idea I could be a "writer". My husband kept telling me that I was a good writer and I brushed it off, but now others are telling me and it feels really good to hear…so thank you very much! That’s just another reason to try something new and put yourself "out there" if that’s what you want to do! You are very kind to comment and I’m so glad you gained some insight from this post!
Love all of this !! 👏👏👏
“Perfection is only a fear of not being enough and we are all enough.”
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Hi Suzanne,
I just love your thought that perfection is static and if we stay in the one mode we do perfectly, we are close to an inner death. I think your intention to grow will show itself in so many ways that include spiritually, stylistically, mentally and physically. Reading posts about all those different modes is always inspiring for me and I am grateful to have someone encouraging me to be generous with my own personal growth!
Hi Dagmar
In my meditation this morning, I thought about letting the past bring only wisdom and nothing else. When we look at past events that weren’t so great as events that teach, they become just that and in a sense the past changes. I think letting go of whatever is keeping us stuck and looking back at it as wisdom for the future is the only way we really grow. For so long, I thought that being "perfect" would make me look better to others, but I’ve realized that it was born of a fear of not being good enough. That’s no way to live! Thank you for your sweet comment and for continuing to read!
HI Suzanne,
Like many others who read your blog I find these thoughtful posts so interesting and inspiring. I appreciate your desire to speak your truth and share what you’ve learned along the way to living your best life.
I’m trying to do the same, and huge things are brewing in the future for me. But I won’t get there without a shake up, and reading some of the wise things you’ve posted is helping me make decisions. I appreciate you and look forward to each of your posts!
Xo Heidi
Hi Heidi
I think life is a never ending delicious journey, and seeing our future before it happens is such an important part of getting where we want to go. I hope that whatever is coming for you comes in the best way possible! You are such a talented artist and give so much beauty to the world! Thank you for continuing to read!
Suzanne, I appreciate you sharing what is true for you. As you probably see, it resonates with other “perfectly human” human beings who want to live as good a life as we can. I hope you write what inspires you, what moves you, what is authentically you – I always love that. I appreciate all that you do – you are an interesting and courageous person, and I admire you.
Jane Smith
Hi Jane
Thank you for always encouraging me! We all are "perfectly human" aren’t we? I do know it feels better to let myself be perfectly human than to try to be perfect!
Hey Suzanne,
Words of encouragement from me. The only avenue is to continue to write what you feel. I wouldn’t care what people think, this is what comes out of you and that’s an awesome thing. In some ways that’s a gift. Putting a filter on it, would be totally wrong. You are an amazing person Suzanne and you have something to tell.
Keep telling it!!!
Charley
Hi Charley
I always love to see your comments! You’re encouragement is so nice and really helpful! Thank you so much for reading my blog!
Good for you Suzanne! As I have told you before I came for the fashion but stay for post such as this. You are an intelligent, interesting woman who has something to say and that should never be stifled. Great post! ❤️
Hi Ruth
Thank you! I’m so excited for what’s to come! There are so many things to talk about and I hope you’ll be part of the conversation! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for reading and commenting!