Several weeks ago, I published a blog post titled Setting Boundaries. It seemed to resonate deeply with many of you! My daughters, however, were not so happy with me. The post was not meant in any way to make them look bad…I am so proud of my daughters and their accomplishments. The point of the post was to express frustration I was feeling with myself.
The day after the post was published, my friend Deanna Pizitz of Well & Worthy Life contacted me and said we need to do a podcast about this. I was hesitant at first, but we decided it would be a good idea to bring her life coach, Sandra Daniele into the conversation to really put a professional perspective on things. I have never worked with a life coach. I’ve had therapy in the past, but from what I understand, therapy is about working through issues from the past, while life coaching teaches you how to truly move forward in a productive way!
I could have never predicted what was going to happen as I was coached about my issues with boundaries. If you had asked me, I would have told you that I had been able to let the past go…”not me…I don’t live in the past, I have done the inner work and I’ve been able to move on”! What I realized was that my boundary issues came for the most part from guilt. Guilt that I carry and guilt that I’m carrying for others. It became clear that when you feel guilt, you’re still living in the past! It was extremely eye opening and very emotional. I’m grateful to Deanna for inviting me to be on her podcast and to Sandra for showing me through her coaching that I have serious work to do! It’s so true that everything happens for a reason! Meeting Sandra was a gift! More on that later…
You’re going to love this podcast! I hope you enjoy it and I hope it you gain some perspective about boundaries! It’s a good one!
Thank you so much for your honesty, vulnerability, and authenticity.
Hi Deanna
Thank you for totally blindsiding me with the coaching session! It was truly one of the best things that ever could have happened to me! Sandra is amazing and is helping me to see where I need to heal and move on! I love everything you do and I know that it all comes from your heart! So glad to call you a friend!
Wow!!! Thank you for putting a voice to my feelings. I will forever thank you for bringing up the quilt factor. We are only quilty if we have done something wrong. I need to address these feelings too. I hate to say no to my adult children. I need to work on this so that I don’t feel resentful. Thank you Suzanne for sharing your heart💗
Hi Nancy
Thank you for listening! The guilt factor hit me like a ton of bricks…I knew I had guilt, but really didn’t think it was affecting me in the way it was. Being a parent isn’t an easy thing and I think it would be hard to find any parent that didn’t feel guilt over something. I’ve realized that I truly did the best I could at the time and I also love my children very fiercely. It is my hope that I can come to see that the love outweighs the guilt every time. Please stay in touch and let me know how things are going. I will keep you in my prayers because I know this is hard!
Suzanne, This podcast was amazing! I did not expect the emotional depth that you would share. Thank You for doing so. I listened even harder. Thank You to all the ladies, such valuable insight.
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Oh my thank you! I honestly didn’t know that I was going to be coached and once we got into it, I didn’t have much choice. I do hope it was helpful…I think it’s an important topic!