Who Are the Fashion Police - Breaking the Fashion Rules

I’m on a bit of a rant today! Yesterday, I saw an Instagram reel that disturbed me. It was a woman who walked by a trash can and threw her skinny, mid rise jeans in the trash can. Today, I saw a post of a woman listing 5 things an elegant woman would never wear! What???

I love fashion! I love reading about the new trends every season and incorporating some of them into my wardrobe. But who is to say what I should or should not be wearing or if I’m elegant! I’ve talked about my difficulty with high waisted jeans on this blog many times. It’s a trend I’ve struggled with and now low rise and mid rise are coming back so I couldn’t be happier…they were hard to find for a few years. I also don’t think wearing skinny jeans is “out” and who really cares. The most stylish people are the people who are creative with their wardrobes, have their own sense of style and wear their clothes confidently…period. There are no rules when it comes to dressing.

In my mind, elegance comes from the inside. It’s about how you love who you are and how you love others. It’s about how you show up in the world every day. Elegance comes from the inside and your life is a reflection of what’s in your heart…it has nothing to do with how clunky your shoes or the rise of your jeans.

As women, we have been controlled and confined (in fashion and in society) for waaayyy too long. We have very important issues to worry about these days and the ideas that an item of clothing should be thrown away because it’s not on trend, or that if you wear clunky shoes, you’re not elegant are ridiculous things that should not ever even come up!

The frightening thing is that the two women on Instagram I’m speaking about have very large followings. Sometimes, when women don’t feel confident in who they are, they can get sucked in to what other people say and think which is obviously not ideal.

It’s fine and interesting to talk about fashion. Clothes can make you feel beautiful, but let’s talk encourage individual style…beauty is in the eye of the beholder. There are no rules unless you think there are rules.

Why aren’t we talking about how we are all important and how we all have gifts…let’s share our individuality and not all try to be and look the same. We were created as individuals…let’s encourage that! If grown women are saying that elegance is based on shoes…how in the world can we expect a younger generation to accept and love themselves for who they are inside. Shoes are fun, and shoes can make you feel good, but the shoes you choose to wear should be your choice, not based on what some random person on Instagram who has 409K followers has to say (this wasn’t the only post of hers that offended me). The truth is, I don’t have to follow her and won’t, but who are the women who do follow her and why would they? That’s the disturbing thing about social media.

I’ve said it before, but Instagram and all social media can be what you choose it to be! I am a part of such a lovely community of women on Instagram who support each other because that’s what I’ve chosen. I think it’s important to bring people together and encourage individuality. You can dress in an elegant way, but elegance is who you are, not what you wear!

And…speaking of shoes, aren’t these from Cult Gaia fabulous? (you may not and that’s okay)! I’ve had my eye on them for quite sometime and I think they’re so much fun for summer! I definitely have plans for these!

My outfit is made up of basics…a pair of mid-rise, straighter leg jeans, a white blouse from Brucho Walker that is honestly the best one I’ve ever bought, white cat-eye sunglasses (okay not so basic but fun), and a Kate Spade bag that is at least 20 years old! I’ve considered letting go of this bag so many times, but I have never been able to…every time I look at it I still think it’s so fabulous!

I hope you’ve enjoyed this post and I would love to know your thoughts! Please leave me a comment and let me know!