You Have Permission
I was perusing Amazon the other day, finding things for my Amazon shop on the blog and ran across a book called Get Rich Lucky Bitch by Denise Duffield-Thomas. It sounded right up my alley so I ordered it. I began reading it yesterday and I’ve somehow found time to almost read the whole thing! Denise talks about how we’re conditioned from our childhood, relationships, and just society in general to think about money in unhealthy ways. She teaches how to bring up those beliefs and replace them with healthy beliefs. It’s so interesting how everything in life is truly tied together. Anyway, there is a section in the book called - You Have Permission ,that was written by Leonie Dawson (www.leoniedawson.com) . I loved it so much that I wanted to share it with you.
We have so many “shoulds” in our lives. We should get up at a certain time, we should be all things to all people, we should have a perfect life, be the perfect mother, wife, etc. The truth is, we have permission to be whatever we want and live our dream lives and believe we have permission to totally be ourselves, unapologetically, every day. We have permission to not be the pleaser that society tells women we should be, We have permission to say “yes” and to say “no”. We have permission to make our dreams come true and it feels so good to be reminded every now and then. So here’s your Tuesday morning reminder that you have permission!
YOU HAVE PERMISSION BY LEONIE DAWSON
Dearest Goddess,
Today and every day, you have permission.
You have permission.
Today and every day, you have permission.
You have permission to say no to demands on your time that don’t light you up, and don’t give energy back to you.
You have permission to not give a crap what’s happening outside your world, and keep your energy focused on what you’re creating.
You have permission to let go of friendships that make you feel like shit.
You have permission to say no whenever you like, however you like, in whatever kind of voice you like, without feeling like only Mean Girls Say No and Nice Girls Say Yes. That’s bull. Yes and No have equal weighting - what’s important is if you use them when they are the best thing for you - not out of fear, obligation or guilt.
They are leading you to where your boundaries are, and where they have been crossed, and what you need to do from now on.
You have permission to be exactly how you are.
You have permission to not be more like anyone else in the world, even if you think they are better, wiser, or more popular. You have permission to be more like yourself, your gifts, and your wisdom.
You have permission to not care what other people think of you.
You have permission to not try to change what other people think of you. You can’t ever argue that you are a good person. They will either know you are, or not. You don’t need to spend time with people who don’t believe in you.
You have permission to do things that your friends and family do not.
You have permission to be wild, expressive, truthful, exciting and outspoken.
You have permission to not accept friendship requests on Facebook, or anywhere else in your life. You have permission to block people whenever you like.
You have permission to share as much or as little as you like. You have permission to blog, or not blog. You have permission to Twitter, or not to Twitter, It doesn’t really matter. As long as it’s making you happy, that’s the best thing.
You have permission to suck at a wide variety of activities. It’s okay. You make up for it with your million other brilliance particles.
You have permission to be whatever body shape you like.
You have permission to choose, and choose again. And then choose again.
You have permission to not always be a perfect image of something.
You have permission to be a contradiction.
You have permission to not go to your school reunion, unless it really excites you and delights you, and you would love to really heart-reconnect with people you went to school with.
You have permission to not be interested in the newest fad: harem pants, geek glasses, Polaroid cameras, scrapbooking, macramé. You also have permission to be totally obsessed with them, if it makes your heart light up.
You have permission to cut people from your life. You have permission to surround yourself with people who are good and loving and nurturing to you.
You have permission to be a disappointment to some people, as long as you’re not a disappointment to yourself.
You have permission to do nothing whenever you like.
You have permission to make your big dream come true.
You have permission to not do it all perfectly, or have all your shit together.
You have permission to not forgive people. You have permission to forgive people when it’s right for you.
You have permission to think some people are crazy. You have permission to think some people are smigging ice cream with chocolate and wafers and sprinkles and cherries on top.
You have permission to not have the perfect relationship.
You have permission to take whatever time you need for you.
You have permission to make ridiculous choices for yourself.
You have permission to use and listen to you intuition. To feel when things are off, and to remove yourself from them, even when you don’t quite know why. You’ll always find out why. Our intuition is here to serve us.
You have permission to be down. You have permission to be up.
You have permission to still believe in unicorns and fairies.
You have permission to believe in things that other people think are very, very odd and strange. You have permission to not care. You have permission to believe in things that make your life wholer, richer, and deeper. You have permission to make your own world that is the truest painting of you.
You have permission to say bugger off to anyone who has ever told you that you’re not good enough, you’re not worth it, you are not beautiful, you are not lovable and you are not the most divine , wise, delicious Goddess to walk the planet.
You have permission to know that you are.
You have permission to swear when you like, however you like, to your reckless abandon.
You have permission to not be the best of anything - just the best of yourself. And some days, just the best you can do that day.
You have permission to not always give. You have permission to fill your own cup up first.
You have permission to have things around you that delight you.
You have permission to live in a tipi if you want to, or a mansion. Whatever makes your spirit shine is the right thing for you.
You have permission to make choices on whether it makes your spirit shine.
You have permission to know you are a goddess, even when it doesn’t feel like it. Even when you feel utterly human. Even when you want nothing more than to climb under your blanket, or light up the sky.
You are a goddess.
You have permission.
You have permission.
You have permission.